This is Vance Williams, again. I think it is best to illuminate the incredible work John is doing through my own eyes and experience over the past 2.5 years.
No belief is required. In much of the personal development world, and religion, there is an element of belief required. Nothing of the sort is happening here.
John Mace, “I will never ask you to believe anything I say. I only show you where to put your feet.”
Most of the people we work with are high achievers who were referred to us by another high achiever. I fall into that category, myself. I have been an achiever since I was a young man. I heard about John through someone else like myself.
Some clients that come to John are being pushed to their limits. Just before I met John, I had been pushed beyond my limits. I was in grief, anxious, prone to anger, and finally convinced that I was missing truly missing something.
But this is not always the case. Some are leading extraordinary lives, but there are a few parts of their lives they are struggling with. Or they just feel that they have hit a ceiling and don’t know what to do. And believe it or not, the first client I worked with was very happy, and asked me to help him reach his highest potential, which I have taken great joy in doing.
I can tell you from experience that most of the people you see who look very successful and happy are probably struggling with more than one issue. Perhaps they are feeling overwhelmed. They might have a lot of success, and a lot of respect, but they don’t feel that way. They think or feel things like:
- If people really knew me, they wouldn’t like me
- I have so much and have accomplished so much but I don’t feel successful
- How come so many other people seem happy and to have their life together and I don’t know what I want?
- I feel like I need to be someone I’m not in order to be loved
- I tend to look outside of myself to validate that I am doing well
- I think of myself as a product of my past experience, or of who I “will” be when I accomplish “X.”
- I feel like I’m missing something and cannot figure out what it is.
- I feel like I could really be great if I could get out of my own way
This is not all of the possibilities listed above, but it does give one an idea. Now, if you continue to do what you have always done, regardless of how successful it made you in the past, here is what this will likely progress to.
- addictions and obsessions (when not formerly this way)
- anxiety
- depression
- physical illness, which can then become catastrophic illness
- feelings of being alone and separate
- anger and resentment
All of this is more common than most of us realize. I had all of the above, though I was prone to addictive behavior from childhood.
Just so you know, I got over ALL of this, and faster than one might imagine it could be done.
In my first meeting with John, he told me many things. I distinctly remembered that I disagreed with four of them.
Why did I go forward. I think for the same reason others did. We were referred by someone who got extraordinary results. And I just knew I needed to do something different.
But he also told me other things that I found very doubtful. For example,
“Vance, what I do works 100% of the time.”
I’ll just say that not much in life works 100% of the time. We all know this.
Not only did everything work for me, it has worked 100% of the time when I have coached others, as well.
So what do we do?
If we were to examine all of the pieces involved, it would not take very long at all for the mind to become overwhelmed by complication.
The ideas we employ with our mind are factors. For example, it is perfectly normal to have “expectations,” and yet when this idea is examined carefully, we see it is just a roller coaster of emotions where we are happy when our expectation is met or disappointed otherwise. There are many ideas that are “normal,” but which don’t work well.
Just about everyone you know is operating with some level of shame. “I’m don’t feel I’m good enough.” Shame is a feeling. It is actually created when we are little. When we are shut down in even the most innocent of situations. Shame is created when we break a rule, and we don’t know what rule we have broken.
Some high achievers are driven by shame without even realizing it. I was in that category myself. The problem is that you can never overcome shame by “being good enough,” no matter what you accomplish. Sure, you could be named with some great honor. It is true, you would not feel shame. In fact, you would likely feel vindicated, which would be followed by a treasured euphoria. But in not much time at all, you would be back to feeling the way you did, needing some other form of validation to temporarily make the feeling subside.
There are emotions that are generated by our thoughts, and there are emotions which are automatic, coming from the older part of our brain, called the Amygdala. Simply put, that part of your brain is always asking three questions 1. Can I eat it? 2. Will it hurt me? 3. Can I make babies with it?
When that part of your brain gets a “yes,” an emotion is generated before you even become conscious of it. So you feel it before you are aware of it. This brings up other issues. How do you deal with the emotions you experience, either automatic, or those you trigger through your thoughts and actions. Would it surprise you to learn that most of what you learned, you learned before the age of 7? How should a man treat a woman or vice versa? How should a father treat a child? What is the man’s role in a marriage?
Now believe it or not, some people don’t have to worry about any of this. For example, I have a chinese friend. She was raised in a very healthy family with many traditions. She lives the same life today that she learned to live as a child. But not all of us grew up like that, did we?
What if you grew up with two alcoholics? Now you are older, and you know that you can’t live that way. Yet your skill set, which was hard-wired when your brain developed was for dealing with problems from an alcoholic’s perspective. You get the idea.
I could go on, of course.
As I said, we could easily overwhelm the mind with the complication that would inevitably follow a staggering number of factors.
In the end, take comfort in knowing that what we are really doing is physics and neurobiology.
After all, how could something work 100% of the time, unless it is physics?
Now for the good news. There is nothing to figure out. I truly mean that. There is nothing to figure out at all. In addition, it is unlikely that we need to discover and deal with some childhood event. If you are prone to alcohol excess, you will never hear John say, “okay you need to stop that.”
And yet John has developed a simple approach that can be done in about 30-40 minutes per day. It’s all easy. You just have to “do it.”
If you do the work, everything will get better. Now you might be thinking. “You still haven’t told me what you do.”
I will tell you exactly what we do, and I’ll do that for free. The first hour is free. One of us will speak with you, find out what is going on for you, and tell you exactly what you will need to do. We’ll explain the real nature of the problem and how to solve it. We’ll have you get two books to start reading, and give you specifically three things to do in addition to that. We meet on Skype video, so you can be anywhere in the world. You can use the contact button on the home page to write to us and set up a meeting, or just feel free to write to us with any question.